I love saying out loud to people that I am getting pregnant on Thursday because it always results in this bewildered look until I explain the situation. When you think about it though, it is pretty neat knowing exactly how old any resulting babies will be. Science has it down to where we can know exactly how many days old the embryos are, and I get to know the exact date that I became pregnant. Yay, go science!
But with the excitement comes the worry too. I worry that the transfer won't result in a successful pregnancy, and that Tori and Mikie will want to give up without having anything to show for all of their efforts. I want this so badly for them. Tori has expressed some doubt about whether the transfer will be successful on the first try either due to some comments and conversations on support group pages. I always try to stay positive and told her not to compare our journey to anyone else's. Some of those people may have been using older eggs, or transferred eggs of lower quality, etc. There is no winning combination for how to guarantee a successful transfer/pregnancy. We all just try the best we can and hope for the best results. Just out of curiosity, I decided to post a poll question on my Surrogate support group and got some very positive feedback!
We announced about a week ago that we are working on putting together a fundraising event in June. The plan is to have a cook-off, raffle drawing, and auction. I ask that if any of y'all work at a business that might be willing to contribute an item, or like to participate as a team in the cook-off to please contact us and let us know. We have already had some great responses and we truly appreciate the outpouring of love and support. Hopefully by the time of the fundraiser I will have a little baby bump starting to form and any money raised can go to past fertility treatment costs rather than future ones.
I take my final exams next week so I will be done with school and can hopefully focus on getting/being pregnant without all this extra worry piling up on me. At the same time though, I need to get a full time job, and preferably ASAP because I know how difficult it can be to get a job when you are visibly pregnant. Even though employers are not suppose to discriminate against expecting mothers, it still happens. I would love to land a great full time job that pays well, offers good hours for a mom with a young child, and is also supportive of the surrogacy journey. So if anyone knows of anyone hiring, please let me know!
I got Tori a transfer gift today. Hayden helped me pick it out, but y'all cannot see any pictures of the gift until after the transfer. I'd like to keep it a surprise. Tori also said she has a transfer gift basket for me, and I hope it is stuffed full of pee sticks. I already have two pee sticks waiting, but you can never really have enough! I plan to start peeing on day 3 post transfer, but won't be able to share any news until beta #s or confirmed heartbeat, based on the wishes of Mikie and Tori. A lot of people without these struggles tend to announce the news of a pregnancy as soon as it is discovered, blissfully unaware that something could happen early on in a pregnancy, which is why now that I am more aware of such heartaches, I advise people to wait until they are out of the woods to announce a pregnancy. Especially given Tori and Mikie's past experiences, false hope can almost kill you. We must hope for the best but plan for the worst.
So everyone, remember to send those sticky vibes and baby dust our way on Thursday.
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